[Marginal Revolution - “The high-return activity of raising others’ aspirations”]

My hope is that we all understand that we have to take personal responsibility in our inner game. And if we don’t like what we are experiencing, we can change it, but we have to be willing. ..not blame with denial, prevent us from taking responsibility and being able to share the focus on the solution. So if we’re going to criticize somebody, it’s one thing to say, I don’t like this. It’s another thing to say it and then give them an option that’s helpful*.

Better decision-making—> Better outcomes —> More agency —> Higher citizenry —> Incentive for honest and benevolent leadership and accountability

Insecure people can be manipulated. Kill the -isms at their root. Help people learn so they can increase their agency. - Sal Khan’s north star is personalized mastery learning because it increases self-esteem and well-being. It’s the maximum leverage point because our largest problems and conflicts stem from what’s in our minds. This is highly adjacent to my own “agency” argument.

There’s a Donald Miller quote I think about often: “Sometimes you have to watch somebody love something before you can love it yourself.” That’s what Darley is doing here. You can ruin any subject by asking the wrong questions, and you can make any subject bloom by asking the right ones; a good teacher shows you the difference. Darley’s manager, on the other hand, is like a guy who thinks peanuts are disgusting because he doesn’t know how to take the shells off.